"Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky."
- Rabinadrath Tagore
HOW I WORK
I have chosen to work with methodologies that help clients to understand their unconscious drivers of choice and behavior. Many times clients are repeating patterns in their life - in relationships or in their endeavors - that end up being unsatisfying or to have negative outcomes. Or. they find themselves stuck and without a sense of direction and purpose, often exhausted from worrying what “should be” happening or about others’ expectations. They are frustrated and disappointed in where their life has gone or how their relationships are feeling. They often feel alone, hopeless, unsatisfied. I so appreciate that you want more! I want to support that desire and help you to develop those wishes to fruition.
Once we are aware of and understand the purpose of internal motivations for behavior and responses, we can make change that is, often, faster and more permanent than traditional talk therapies. I often hear from clients that, while helpful, they are often still suffering or have not felt enough change, even after years of traditional talk therapy. Thanks to recent advances in neurobiological research, we now know that the brain can make change throughout a lifetime, with the proper input and methods. We don’t have to stay stuck with the same impulses, thoughts, and feelings.
Memory Reconsolidation is the name of this innate process of the brain for profound, targeted unlearning. On the level of neurons and synapses, memory reconsolidation is a potent form of neuroplasticity—the only known form of neuroplasticity capable of unlocking and erasing emotional learning. Both AEDP and EMDR strive to take advantage of this amazing capacity for creating a liberating shift that releases the grip of lifelong themes of distress, with changes that can stick.
AEDP is about working together to making the most of difficult experiences, for both healing and for transformation. Key to this approach is the development of a strong therapeutic relationship in order to undo aloneness and create a safe base. I believe people are more than a diagnosis or what they have done or experienced in the past, and that all people are worthy of care and attention. Inside all of us reside many untapped resources that naturally foster the healing process. Accelerated Experiential-Dynamic Psychotherapy focuses on tapping into these under-utilized sleeping giants and attempts to awaken them so that they can occur as a natural response to circumstances in our lives, vs relying on defensive tactics or living with anxiety and/or depression. It is through this process of mutual curiosity and exploration that helps clients to move through trauma and suffering to create growth and resilience. Life can become fulfilling, more of what you want it to be.
"We are shaped by a deep desire to be known, seen and recognized, as we strive to come in contact with the parts of ourself that are frozen." - Diana Fosha
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) is an integrated trauma therapy that incorporates methods from a variety of trauma therapies. It is evidence-based for PTSD, complex trauma, anxiety/fears, depression, OCD, negative self beliefs, and a variety of other mental health challenges. The model on which EMDR is based, Adaptive Information Processing (AIP), posits that many of peoples' mental health challenges are due to maladaptive memory processing, that keeps people stuck and creates unwanted body reactions to current life experiences. The 8-phase process facilitates the resumption of normal information processing and integration. EMDR targets past experiences and future potential changes, resulting in a reduction of presenting symptoms and a decrease in distress that comes from difficult memories. This, in turn, creates a reduction in future triggers and anxiety responses.
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs on earth. I believe most parents have a desire to parent well, and to have a strong relationship with their kids. However, so many things can get in the way – developmental or sensory challenges, emotional problems, divorce, medical issues, work and other outside demands, school battles, etc. I work with parents either 1:1 in the office or in the home, to deal with life when it’s happening and to problem-solve around difficult family dynamics, sift through difficult decisions, and give strategies to deal with behaviors/power struggles. My approach is respectful and collaborative; I don't provide cookie-cutter answers, but seek to find solutions that match your parenting values and yet still support healthy social-emotional development in your child. Parenting Support at Play Connect Thrive is a partnership where you bring your insights, values, and fears. We work together to meet your trials head on. You CAN develop a close, respectful, and connected relationship with your child.
SAFE and SOUND PROTOCOL
Developed by Stephen Porges, the Safe and Sound Protocol is a headphone-based,auditory intervention designed to reduce stress and emotional reactivity, while enhancing social engagement and resilience. The SSP, formerly known as "The Listening Project Protocol" is based on more than 40 years of research investigating relationships between the autonomic nervous system and social-emotional processes.
Emotional and physiological states are important to how we engage with the world. When a person has better state control, not only can they be more socially engaged, they are more responsive in therapy and outcomes are often achieved more quickly. Clients will listen to specially-filtered music that has been designed to re-tune the nervous system and to create a sense of safety so clients can feel more open, less reactive to circumstances, and more able to socially engage. The music works through auditory pathways to stimulate aspects of the ANS (autonomic nervous system) that are important for promoting states of calm, relaxation, and overall social behavior - the facial nerve and the vagus nerve. The Facial Nerve helps clients focus on human voice and tune out irrelevant frequencies, while the Vagus Nerve enables self-soothing and autonomic regulation.
This non-invasive,5-day (1 hour each day) intervention can be a wonderful addition to more traditional therapies. The research shows participants improved in the areas of inattentiveness, anxiety and trauma-related symptoms, stressors that impact social engagement, social emotional difficulties, and auditory sensitivities.
To read the research connected to this intervention, click here